Coffee With An Ex

31581048030_dc0a4e0f4e***Check me out over at The Washington Post. I wrote an essay about a day when I was a super grown-up.***

I was once told that I was the reason that stepmothers get such a bad rap in Disney movies. My crime? I’d written an essay about my complicated relationship with a divorced father of three, and in it I’d admitted to the occasional bout of jealousy in the beginning of our relationship. I wrote that sometimes, I couldn’t help but feel a little left out of the things I wasn’t allowed to participate in yet: vacations, the kids’ sports games, birthday dinners.

In the comments section, one reader said that if jealousy was a problem for me, then I was responsible for all the bad PR stepmothers get. Then she used some very colorful language to tell me to grow up.

I was just trying to be honest: As someone in her mid-30s who never planned on having kids, being the girlfriend of an older man with three teenagers is a challenging place to be. And in the beginning, it could be a lonely place.

Then last month — three years into our relationship — my boyfriend Kevin received a text from his ex-wife: I’d like to have coffee with Dani.

Oh what I wouldn’t give for the days when I felt left out.

Click here to find out what happens at coffee.

photo credit: CJS*64 7am via photopin (license)


2 thoughts on “Coffee With An Ex

  1. evarodesign April 13, 2017 / 9:50 am

    I saw your story on the Post wire this week, and loved it (and started following your blog immediately afterwards haha) 🙂 I think it was uninformed and insensitive on the part of the commenter who criticized you for being honest about your feelings 😦 I’m a soon-to-be-official stepmom, too, and was terrified of the stereotype at the beginning. Thankfully things are going really well (miracles), but I understand where you’re coming from. It’s a really weird role to navigate sometimes!!!

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    • sumofmypieces April 13, 2017 / 10:00 am

      Someone just reminded me: if you write honestly, there will always be people who judge. It’s very true. So glad the article resonated with you!

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